The guiding question for my sister Margie’s life and ministry is: “Am I (or are we) loving each individual well?”
We measure what is important to us. An insight into American Christianity is what it does not measure. Some noticeable questions missing from evaluation are: How many of our children are following Jesus into adulthood? Do our people love one another? How healthy are our marriages? How many of our converts continue to follow Jesus after 5 years? What is our reputation in the world?”
Love requires us to consider at what rate we can effectively add people to our ministry. If we randomly keep adding people then we put ourselves into a position where not only can we not love the new people but we also are unable to love those who are already in our ministry, which is to say we can love no one.
To love requires time. If when I say “I will spend time with you” to a new comer, requires me to say “I do not have time to spend time with you” to someone who is already in my ministry, then there is the possibility that we have become too large.
I can hear some say, “But I thought disciple making and the gospel is about multiplication and expansion?!” Exactly! In order to multiply and expand we must love well. To not love well is to hinder the replicating process.