The dark side of man enjoys the failure of others, regrettably even in the lives of family and friends. This is evident in our appetite for gossip and our eagerness to hear of the drama in the lives of others. (By drama I mean the failure, conflict, hurt, sin, hatred, and hardship brought on by selfishness.) Unhealthy people build their relationships around this drama, so that without the drama they have no relationships.
As a disciple of Jesus you must guard your heart against this taste for gossip and drama, which frankly is evil. There is a fine line between entering into the life story of your disciple and being sucked into the self-centered drama of his life. For some of your disciples the only way they will know how to relate to you is by creating drama, which may explain his unusual behavior and attitude towards you.
Not only is our nature drawn to the failure of others but Satan also draws our attention and the attention of our disciple to his steps backward, which can blind both of us to his progress. Spiritual progress is difficult to perceive, much like the growth of a child, whereas failure is obvious.
Love, on the other hand, has the faith and strength to detect the baby steps of growth. Paul tells us that: “Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth” 1 Corinthians 13. Our disciples should sense from us optimism grounded in a conviction that the gospel and the Holy Spirit are able to transform lives.