Myth #8 Singles are sexually promiscuous.
Truth: A mark of kingdom singleness is that he or she can control his or her sexual desire.
”Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 1 Corinthians 7:8-9
The presumption that marriage ensures sexual purity, by definition creates an expectation that singles will be promiscuous.
Spiritual leaders should be diligent to promote the moral virtue of singles that are followers of Jesus but no more or no less than we would want to ensure the purity of married couples. Paul includes both male and females in his recommendation of marriage for those who are impassioned with sexual desire. In the book of Proverbs all the promiscuous women were married, it is not just men who burn with passion.
Most should marry and enjoy God’s good gift of matrimony but being married and becoming a parent does not guarantee purity. There are husbands, wives, dads, and moms that continue to “play the field.”
As hard as it is for some married couples to believe, it is possible to be single and to live a joyful, chaste, sincere, and holy life because of Jesus within him or her as exemplified by Paul, Barnabas, Timothy, and Titus even in the midst of a sexually charged culture.